The Bridesmaid Survival Guide

I can't be the only one that's seeing nuptials all over the gram of lately, meaning it's wedding season! *throws confetti* and if your judging the title of this post, you may be wondering if perishing at the end of the wedding is on the menu? (don't worry it isn't) But for those like myself who have had the opportunity to be a bridesmaid will know exactly what I'm talking about. With the surmounting pressure (especially in this day and age where many focus on their wedding going viral in oppose to the importance and reality of the marriage covenant), the expectations that fall upon #TeamBride have escalated to another level all under the guise of being a 'team player'.

My first experience of being a bridesmaid was one that I enjoyed. It opened my eyes to the ins and outs of what it takes to serve a bride and also the different characters you will come across within the chosen group.

Before I go on, I want to encourage us to remember that being chosen as a bridesmaid is an honour. Someone that you love and value has cherry-picked you to be part of their journey into a new chapter of their life. While the responsibility should be taken with great pride, for many, the awww's don't last for long after the 'I do' (accept the honour to be your bridesmaid).

So with all that said, here are five things to consider and to help you survive the joys and 'woes' that come with being a bridesmaid.

Cash Flow

Understand that with most bridesmaid roles a financial responsibility is part of the package. That might include forking out in excess of £1,000 on the dress, shoes, nails, hair, makeup, travel to get to the venue, hotel and let's not forget the much-anticipated hen do.

Team Player

You have to be a team player as a somewhat non-negotiable fact and realise from the jump that everything won't be to your liking. However, I found remembering the day isn't about you and that you would want everyone to agree to your terms when it's your time to walk down the aisle can help with your willingness to cooperate. This doesn't mean you can't have an input with ideas, so make use of your creativeness and contribute to the group as much as you can.

Attitude Check

You might not get along with all the other girls that have been chosen and character clashes are sometimes unavoidable. In light of this, try as much as possible to leave your attitude at the door, forgive and let the offences slide! (Luke 17:1-4). The bride already has a task at pleasing her family, impressing her soon to be in-laws and wow-ing her groom. A bunch of angry bridesmaids can ruin the entire process!.

Organising Your Time

I know we all have our own lives to deal with but during this time, you have to manage your time really well. A couple of sacrifices have to be made for you to be at meetings, dress fittings, social gatherings, hen do, bridal shower, wedding rehearsal, and rehearsal dinner. I know it won’t be easy and if you genuinely have to miss one or two, it's not the end of the world but as much as possible try to set aside time for the key moments.

Have Fun

At the end of it all, it is a celebration so have FUN! Brush off them dance moves and get busy on the dance floor. The anointing on your knees may have run dry but in no way can you be on the sidelines. Two-step vigourously if you have to! You are there to be the brides hype man. So hype it up!

Delores Oblitey